My little sister is getting married on Saturday.
It’s hard to believe. I remember her as a little kid. And dancing around the house after ballet lessons. I remember her falling asleep at the table, when our parents wouldn’t let her leave until every vegetable was gone.
I remember her first year of high school, meeting lots of new people and learning who she was. Going to prom a couple years later. I remember the boyfriends — some we liked, some we didn’t.
More recently, I remember living with her after she graduated from college. I’ll always treasure the memory of that year. It was great to see her as an adult, as a peer. I’ll always be grateful that I had that year to get to know my sister as an adult. To see that she’s grown into a wonderful young woman.
What I’ve Learned
So now, as my wife and I prepare to fly back to Texas for the wedding, I’m thinking about what it takes to build a great marriage. I’m trying to piece together thoughts, to compile suggestions I’d offer to the newlyweds.
I’ve learned several lessons in our first year of marriage:
- To confess my own sins before God before complaining about my wife’s.
- To put aside my personal preferences when the situation calls for it.
- To learn how to love my wife well, instead of assuming I already know.
- To stop looking, to stop playing the “what if?” game, to stop wondering if the grass is greener.
So I’ve learned a little, but I still have a long way to go.
What Do You Suggest for a Great Marriage?
What advice would you have for my sister? What would you tell someone going into their first year of marriage? How can she build a great marriage?
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